Heard an interesting analogy this morning to describe the pattern of going from one relationship to another, without stopping in between...the monkey bars. This is the practice of holding on to one relationship while starting another, only letting go of the old one after the new one has begun. It is a perfect pictorial to describe the fears of a codependent person. The fear of being alone or totally by oneself never happens because they are connected to someone else emotionally, physically or possibly even both. It makes it safe for the person holding on to two relationships because they never have to experience the fears and deal with the emotions of being alone. Unfortunately, this practice is equally damaging as well. It keeps the person stuck in a pattern of behaviors that does not allow them to deal with the real issues. These issues are likely the fear of being totally alone and the lack of ability to feel at total peace with oneself. There are many reasons these fears may exist and can be as varied as flavors of ice cream from one person to another, but all valid fears none the less because of each person's individual experiences. The question then would be...are you afraid of letting go? Would you like to become aware of your life or continue down the same path, making the same mistakes? It is your choice. Good luck with your decision, but don't be afraid.
"Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret from the past and fear of the future." Fulton Oursler