Honesty and courage go hand in hand. Many mistakes are made in life...they are there to help us learn. It is what we do with these mistakes is what makes the difference. Once mistakes are realized, it is important to be honest about them and come clean. If an apology is warranted, make it. The guilt that is carried around by the mistake or pain caused to another is counter-productive and leads to more guilt and reluctance to change. Have faith that no matter how the apology is received, you have done your part in at least acknowledging the mistake. But don't stop there. What you do with that knowledge is what can lead to permanent change. This change takes courage. Not all interactions in life go well. But being willing to make good on those mistakes or apologize for the pain caused, is a step in the right direction. Feeling guilty about something or having difficulty sleeping at night? Give it a try, come clean. It is easy to suppress feelings and hope that issues will go away if it is just ignored. But often times it is like a snowball silently rolling down a slope...it grows. It will get so big that eventually it will require attention, maybe when you least expect it or in ways that you never considered. We all have a reluctance to change, because it is sometimes uncomfortable or painful, but making the same mistakes over and over again with the same results is called...insanity. Good luck on the changes you choose to make in your life...and be brave.
“You don't develop courage by being happy in your relationships everyday. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.” ...
Only 2? I've seen many more women than that that can't handle or want to deal with the truth. Although I believe you underlying setiments, I believe it is a societal (sp?) problem more than it one gender or the other. I believe the majority of people can't handle, deal with, or speak the truth. Now ain't that some bullshit!
ReplyDeleteIf I think about it and am honest, I would have to agree as well. It is both genders and it is definitely a societal issue. I wish I could say I haven't made the same mistake...but that would be bullshit. I certainly am conscious of the errors now and truly do welcome the god to honest truth, no matter what. It is so much easier if we are all operating on truths. So who is this, anyway?
ReplyDelete"Be careful of your thoughts; they may become words at any moment." Iara Gassen
ReplyDeleteWords once spoken can't be taken back. Once you've said them and another person has heard them, it's too late to change your mind. For the most part, this is all right. It's important to tell people how you're feeling and what you're thinking. But when it comes to lies, gossip, hurtful jokes, or criticis, be careful what you say. Think first and you won't have anything to regret later.