Getting Past the Glare

Is is possible to get past the glare? The glare being referred to here is the initial visual attraction made between two people upon first chance encounter. Experience has shown that when two people first meet and find each other mutually attractive based on physical appearance, there tends to be what I would like to coin a "glare." This glare is very similar to what you would experience when driving down the road on a sunny day. You can see out your windshield and are still able to drive, but you are somewhat distracted by the bright glare coming from the reflection of sun off the windshield. Everything will be fine as soon as you make a turn that puts your car out of the direct glare of the sun, or put down the visor that at least helps dim the amount of direct glare that is visible. But how does this translate to the glare in relationships, especially new ones where you find yourself immediately imposed upon by the "glare?" The relationship glare still allows you to physically see the person, but does it also provide a distration that makes it more difficult to see through the windshield and get to the important details that are at this point somewhat disorted by the radiant rays of the glare? Not certain if this is a gender specific issue or if it effects both men and women equally? So is born a new post to ponder the effects of "glare." Having a physical attration to your partner is very important in any couple. But can this attraction provide such a glare that it makes it more difficult to get at the important parts of the relationship that allow a deeper connection? Can one get past the initial glare and delve into more meaningful experiences? Or perhaps is the glare part of the person's nature, much like that of the praying mantis or the beautiful male cardinal bird? The more attractive the animal, the more likely it is to draw in it's prey. Is the human glare used like that of the female mantis to draw in her mate, only to eat him once mating is complete. Okay,that may be a little dramatic...but it appears that sometimes we are not as far removed from the animals as one may think. Perhaps glares in relationships may be dimmed by some sunglasses. Figuring out what the sunglasses will look like or how well they shield the glare may be the difficulty. Or maybe it is just like driving a car, once you have made your turn into the sun, you will have to ride it out until you find your sunglasses, get your visor down or make a turn out of the direct glare. Perhaps... Not bullshit! by, yours truly